A thing I’ve noticed repeatedly spring up in this community is an anxiety around gaining fast enough, hitting your weight goals and avoiding plateaus. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having goals for your body, but sometimes it can sound like this bizarre inverse of the mindset around diet culture. I know this is easier said than done, but the most radical thing you can do for yourself is love the you who is still on their journey. You’re no less a feedee or a gainer regardless of your current size or progress. Take the time to enjoy the moment you’re in right now, and you may have an easier time enjoying the gradual changes that come.
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This is why I stopped weighing myself and counting calories. I love numbers as part of the kink, but it was stressing me out too much. I loved my (mid-transition) body and tried my best to keep it up all along the way. But that reverse diet thing wormed its way into my thinking, and even though I know the actual politics and science around diets (they’re bad), I still felt like reverse-engineering them would work??
And, no surprise, it didn’t make me gain any faster than just enjoying myself and food for its own sake and reveling in my body *as it is*.
I want to gain more, I have goals, I hope I reach them, but it’s lovely where I am already and it can be for you too.
Please don’t pressure yourself away from joy.
(via exquisitegenesis)
